Election Day 2026

It’s Election Day in America. It’s hard to explain what it’s like to be an Ohio voter during election season but it feels a little like being water boarded with social media ads, billboards, tv and radio spots, mailers, phone calls and text messages. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if I walked outside today to find a crow in my driveway holding a letter from the independent candidate running for Ohio governor.

These candidates are more persistent than the folks who want to sell us an extended warranty on our vehicle.

The text messages are the absolute worst. In fact, regardless of which side of the political aisle you sit on, I think we all can agree the text messages are out of control.

In case you didn’t know, they have to report on how they pay for the ad but there is no oversight of the content of the ad. In other words, you have to assume that their advertising is either all lies, withholding the facts, or manipulating facts in some way because it is rare to find truth in political ads in America.

So I mute the tv, delete the texts, and delight in ripping their mailers into a hundred pieces without even looking at them. Seriously, I could wallpaper my dining room with the mailers this year.

It’s exhausting, frustrating, and demoralizing because these abhorrent techniques must work on someone or else they wouldn’t be investing literally billions of dollars with every single election cycle.

Imagine the good we could do for homeless veterans and for senior citizens choosing between food for themselves and food for a beloved pet if we had a billion dollars to invest.

And everyone I know is excited because it will end after today. Except it won’t.

We will have a few days of Monday morning quarterbacking and analysis of this giant chess game that affects every one of us in a very real and dangerous way. Then we will jump right into the presidential race to an election just two short years away.

Sigh.

It’s just too much and it appears many, many people I know are feeling the same way.

So, I give to you the advice that I need to hear. Turn off the tv and mute social media. Go outside, play with your kids, take a walk around the block, plan a meet-up with someone who makes you smile, read a book, learn a new hobby, volunteer in your community, donate to a cause that you are proud to support, or just linger a little longer over your coffee and crossword.

Whatever you do, don’t let the things that are beyond your control ruin your day.

Scavenger Hunt: Seeing Red

Earlier this year, my Pittsburgh pal and I went on a little adventure that involved a bookstore crawl around her city and some exploring around Bedford, Pa. She had found a photography scavenger hunt that included nearly forty prompts like photograph something the size of a mouse, something hard, and something blue.

While we both did a great job documenting our adventures, we both failed miserably at the scavenger hunt prompts. Part of the problem for me is that I was so happily engaged in seeing and photographing new things, the prompts seemed less important. Plus, there were so many options, it was a little overwhelming.

But I held onto my worksheet thinking maybe I would revisit it someday.

Well, friends, someday has arrived.

I got to thinking about the need for a creative look at daily life when just hanging out and doing the same things. I feel creative when walking strange ground but need a boost when everything feels familiar.

Instead of taking a few days to work on all the prompts, I’m going to use one a week and see what I see.

This week’s prompt was Something Red.

None of my photos turned out great but I ended the week with about a dozen that are decent.

I truly believe that we see what we seek. If you are looking for a white car, you will only see white cars. If you are looking for things that are scary and divisive, that’s all you’ll ever notice. If you are looking for things that are red, rest assured there’s a lot of red in this world.

This is a great creative exercise because it can be done about anywhere. My main rule for myself is that the pictures can’t be heavily edited – a little cropping is fine but not a lot of other manipulation. The first image did get a little manipulation because I had to snap it through a dirty windshield. Don’t worry. I wasn’t driving,

Vintage radio.

A real working vintage drink cooler at Stella’s Mercantile.

Laundry.

Another vintage radio. I’m sensing a theme here.

Fiesta!

Last, but not least – you knew I had to work in some books!

This week’s theme is Something To Eat. Want to play along? It’s a fun game you can play to help you see your world a little differently!

Around Here

Around here CALM is the name of the game. Scout has been really sick, a malady I’m certain is brought on by anxiety. He went back to the vet yesterday for more tests and I continue to force him to take pills twice a day. Have you ever tried to give a cat pills by yourself? It’s a life skill I seem to have mastered with my boy, at least. Sadly, when we are done, he turns to me (his tormenter) for comfort.

Otherwise, I’ve been trying hard to keep his little world calm and somewhat predictable. By extension, my world has been calmer as well. In fact, I’m home again today. I’ve been home a lot lately with time to do some cleaning and organizing, reading, and kitty cuddling.

I’ll also be listening to authors talk about their books this weekend through something called Roswell Reads Rewind. Basically Roswell, Georgia has a city wide reading project that involves bringing in major fiction authors to speak about their books and to sometimes speak about their writing process. Once a year they post all those videos of past events online for a single weekend. It’s wonderful to go at your own pace and have a front row seat to all these smart people who have given the world books truly worth reading.

Last night I listened to Lisa See talk about her “overnight success” after spending twenty years writing books. Today I’ll revisit some favorites that I watched last year including Ron Rash, Ann Patchett, and Rick Bragg.

Around here, books and reading matter. Not only does reading entertain, it broadens horizons, educates and increases empathy in a world where these things I value seem to have gone out of vogue.

That’s part of the reason it irritates me to say there’s a good chance I’m going to DNF a book today. It sounded great but it has taken the author a full third of nearly 600 pages to get to the actual story of the book and I find that I’m just not that interested.

Do I care what happens next or if the main character is ok? Not especially.

Around here, we call that a bad sign. I’ll give it fifty more pages before deciding that this may just not be the book for me.

Around here, we understand that all things are not for all people and we move on.

I do wish I could be out doing something fun today. There’s probably a car show or a museum exhibit I would like to see. October is my favorite month for activities and time in nature. I know I’m missing out by not being on the hiking trails but there’s an event happening at Lake Hope today so that wouldn’t be peaceful and the Hocking Hills parks will be as busy as Times Square by noon.

Around here, we recognize that lots of people have FOMO or the Fear Of Missing Out but we believe in JOMO.

That’s the Joy of Missing Out.

At this moment, I’m in comfy pjs, still lounging with my little cat who adores me even when I make him take medicine and leave him at the vet to be poked and prodded. It’s a beautiful fall day and I have a quick errand to run so maybe I’ll stop for a few pictures on the way. Otherwise, around here is where I will stay and be glad for the calm of a quiet day mostly at home.

Whether you’re staying in or headed out on adventure, I hope where you are is as happy as this.

When Did We Agree To Settle For Less?

When I was a young professional in the early 2000s, it was still possible to walk into a department store in a small town like Chillicothe, Ohio and buy clothes that were decently made.

My first real job was as a newspaper reporter. This was a time when professionals were still expected to dress like professionals so I commonly wore pantsuits or sweater sets with dress pants. Sometimes I would wear khaki pants with a polo if the day was expected to be casual but this wasn’t common. After all, the world of a small town newspaper reporter was predictably unpredictable.

At that time I would go to Sears or JC Penney on payday and write a check (yes, we still wrote checks in stores back then) to purchase a new outfit, slowly building a wardrobe that wouldn’t be out of style in a year.

Sears was the best deal for my money because they sold a line of clothes that came with a few pieces. For about $40 I could get a pant suit with a coordinating floral skirt and scarf. Four pieces that could be worn as separates or as outfits. My favorite was a gray pantsuit with a burgundy floral skirt and scarf.

I got a lot of wear out of that set.

In 2013, Kohls partnered with Dana Buchman on a luxury line of professional separates at a bargain price. There were basic skirts, sheath dresses, and jackets in basic grey, black, blue, etc. alongside some bold floral and geometric patterns in blouses and sweaters. Most everything mixed and matched. It was all well made and versatile.

I actually interviewed for my current employer in a grey suit from there and vividly remember asking a woman in the accessories department for help picking out a necklace.

I still have that necklace, the suit, and several other items from that collection because they are well made, classic, and timeless.

Fast forward to today and it’s increasingly difficult to find clothes that will survive a trip through the laundry, much less a decade of use. I actually had to return a Michael Kors sweater to the store last winter because the arm started to fall off while I was wearing it for the first time.

As I was trying to weed out some things in my perpetually messy closet this week, it occurred to me that I still own a couple of Faded Glory brand flannel shirts from Walmart, circa 2004, that are better made than anything you can buy in stores today. The fabric shows no signs of wear and there’s nary a loose thread or button anywhere. Similarly, I have a couple of sweaters from Kmart that I keep to wear around the house that are showing their age but certainly aren’t losing any arms.

And don’t even get me started on how we have to take what we can get in this fast fashion environment. You see a lot of articles talking about avoiding fast fashion or embracing colors that complement your complexion. What they don’t tell you is where to shop.

I own a lot of black. Black pants, black dresses, black shirts, black shoes. No, I’m not preparing for a Wednesday Adams convention but that’s often the only color available in office appropriate clothing.

I own one dress in three colors because I needed summer dresses for the office and TJ Maxx and Marshall’s sold one kind of basic looking dress in black, royal blue, and red. Everything else looked more appropriate for a bachelorette party or maybe a beach vacation. Oh, and I went to three stores to find those three dresses because each store was shipped a different color.

And that Sears pantsuit I loved so much? The jacket was short sleeved. When was the last time you found a short sleeved suit jacket?

They are rare.

I would like to say this is all caused by societal decline into a stage so casual that no one dresses up for anything anymore. But these problems are found in the world of casual clothing too. The colors are either bland and ugly or bright and ugly. There’s no variety or the designer’s choices aren’t flattering to any human form. I picked up a top at T J Maxx this week that had basic buttons and a collar, tricking me into thinking I had found a nice professional blouse.

It was cropped short with a fashionably frayed hem.

Curses!

It makes me wonder where people shop for clothes these days. Plus, the prices have gone up making the poor construction, cheap material, and strange design choices truly not worthy. As brick and mortar stores pack up and leave American towns, it requires a special trip to Dayton, Cincinnati, or Columbus to even find a store like Macy’s which, frankly, isn’t affordable for a lot of people despite their marketing efforts to convince us otherwise.

Online ordering is a crap shoot with inconsistent sizing of women’s clothes, poor quality, and unrealistic pictures to guide the shopper.

I’ve been in a number of small boutique stores but their embrace of casual looks is off putting when you just need a dress for a job that doesn’t require resort wear or looking like Holly Hobby.

My closet is like a strange archaeological dig with Duck Head brand jeans from Goody’s (remember them?), jackets and coordinating shells from Dress Barn (oh, how I miss Dress Barn stores), and the occasional Ohio University sweatshirt from my actual university days that will likely outlive me.

All of that stuff is timeless and well cared for so why would I want to weed it out just because it’s a little older and I’m short on space? The kids today are all thrifting this stuff because they’ve figured out buying second hand is the only way to have well made clothes.

So, I pulled out some things that I just don’t like or that no longer look nice but the closet is still pretty full.

And I’m ok with that.

But I do wonder when exactly we all agreed to accept shoddy work and ugly clothes for these prices. And, truly that question could apply to all kinds of things – televisions, furniture, luggage, shoes, small and large appliances….. even the covers of some paperback books are so thin they feel like they could be torn with absolutely no effort.

My washer and dryer are over thirty years old, remnants from another time and place when machines were metal and computer chips were only used in computers. They aren’t in the best shape anymore but they get the job done. When these things die, I will weep because I know people who need repairmen for three week old appliances that will need replaced in three years or less.

When did we agree to this? Is there a way out?

Probably not.

But I’m seeing a trend among people on social media and hearing stories from people who are thrifting and up cycling old furniture. They’re learning to sew, making it possible to alter old and outdated clothes into imaginative new outfits. They’re learning to repair things with help from YouTube.

They’re proving that well made old stuff beats the new crap. They’re showing us the quiet luxury that comes with having real wood furniture, and not something that is assembled with an allen wrench and a prayer. They’re choosing to bypass what companies have decided to offer and saying they aren’t about to settle for something that isn’t good enough.

And I’m here for it.

I may be wearing a 25 year old Walmart flannel but I’m here for it.

Postcard From Florida

This wasn’t the best day. Scout went back to the vet today with another flare up of an issue that started earlier this year. It’s called Feline Idiopathic Cystitis or, in laymen’s terms, inflammation of the bladder wall.

So we got another round of medicine – a liquid and two pills to be administered a couple of times a day for the foreseeable future. He sang the song of his people all the way there and back but was a perfect little gent for the vet.

He was less gentlemanly as I single handedly wrestled him to the floor for his first dose.

I was having a “Calgon, take me away moment” tonight as I went through the mail. Seamless gutters, bill, bill, credit card offer… and a postcard! Not just any postcard but one that features a gorgeous painting by Florida Highwayman Alfred Hair.

My Pittsburgh pal, who I admired Highwaymen art with earlier this year, was recently in Florida and thought to send this to me. Did you read the story I wrote a few months ago? If you didn’t, you should because their art is magnificent and they painted prolifically. Click here to read about them.

She says the antique stores down there are like galleries of their work, something I would love to see someday.

Why do I tell you this? It’s just a gentle reminder that real mail from friends and family is still relevant and important. Birthday cards and thank you notes have been all but replaced by texts and Facebook greetings. Yet, there’s something special about opening your mailbox to something from a friend.

It tells me that, for a moment, the sender thought to buy a postcard, write a message, and take it to the post office. And during her vacation!

What a nice thought.

So, buy yourself a few stamps and some cards or postcards and send a note here and there. Brighten someone’s day! You never know the impact your actions might have.

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