Silent Sunday: Look Up

Silent Sunday

Choosing An Analog Life

It is becoming clearer every day that I am a true product of my times. And when I say my times, I mean the nineteen hundreds. 

Cue the Waltons theme song. 

It feels like I spend most of my life staring at screens. Every store wants you to use their app and everywhere you turn, someone is shoving some fake piece of AI generated junk in your face. From the selection of stock artwork we sometimes use at my job to things people share on social media, it feels like our society has lost track of its collective common sense. It feels like we don’t want a  connection to anything tangible or real. 

It’s rare to see kids playing outside. People don’t seem to enjoy practicing their craft anymore. Nothing is real. We would rather have a photo on a screen than one we print out and keep in a frame or photo album. We prefer phone games with strangers to board games with family. We want stories in fifteen second soundbytes. We prefer streaming to a CD we can hold in our hands. The tangible has been replaced by the virtual and I’m not digging it. 

Good grief. I sound like Andy Rooney. Remember him? The old guy on CBS News who used to complain about everything under the sun?

I don’t mean to complain but I do worry about a society that can’t distinguish between reality and AI. I worry that our society is losing a piece of its soul as we don’t encourage people to be painters, poets, historians, philosophers or musicians. Trade jobs pay better and we tell kids not to waste their time on things that won’t make them money.  I worry that the processed food industry has finally turned the tide in the war against people knowing how to grow their own food and prepare nutritious meals. I worry that we have lost our ability to enjoy simple pleasures because we’re so overstimulated. I worry about a world without empathy and without a basic understanding of how far we have come across history. I worry for a country that embraces lies over truth and that thinks rewriting history to suit the egos of a few is ok.

The lack of empathy, loss of joy for anything at all, and misinterpretation of history is a dangerous combination. The endless advice to turn hobbies into side hustles tells us that we can no longer do something because we enjoy it – everything is a potential income stream.

I have been exhibiting signs of adult ADHD. I don’t believe this is as much of a real problem for me as it is for many others but whatever is going on in my brain is making it impossible to concentrate. 

I cannot be alone in these thoughts and problems. 

Personally, I like to cook, to read and to create things for fun.. I prefer the outdoors to screen time when the summer heat and humidity aren’t hammering us every single day. I like books and exploration, homemade soup, and little decorating projects. Watching lightning bugs at dusk and admiring a sunrise will always be some of my favorite things.

I have begun to think of a more Analog Life as a goal to work toward and have gone so far as to begin plotting the many ways I can make my home more cozy, the ways I can avoid technology, and the benefits of music on the record player, dinner on the porch, and meals I make with a few simple ingredients. 

Finding a rhythm to the day and leaning into the boundaries and opportunities of the seasons feels important to me. We are moving into Autumn (hopefully soon), a season of bounty with long walks and lots of textures to keep things cozy. The days are shorter but they tend to be magnificent when the leaves put on a grand show that reminds us all how beautiful it can be to let things go. 

Embracing self care through movement in nature, hydration, and nutrition is an important part of each season. Being mindful of how you treat your body shouldn’t be lost on us but it is for many. 

I cannot just check out of the digital age. This is how I connect with you, dear reader. It’s a big part of my job and my best connection to friends from afar. It’s how I find things I need. It’s part of the world I live in and not all bad. But I do hope to start trimming the amount of hours that the outside world can occupy in my day. 

Twinkle lights on the porch with hot chocolate in hand never hurt anyone’s well being. A book to help us relax in the evening is always a good idea. Food prepared with few ingredients in your own kitchen nourishes the body while breathing fresh air will patch up the damage we’ve done to our spirits each day. It grounds us. 

Puzzles and board games at the kitchen table, popsicles on a hot day, classic tunes on a record player, a paint-by-number kit, cookies baking in the oven, cruising with the windows open, a clean home, and time spent with a beloved pet are a few ways to unplug and detox.

Make something with your own two hands just for the pleasure of doing. Close your eyes and savor your food. Learn some sewing skills even if it’s just to repair something you might have otherwise thrown away.  Remember that getting something done quickly for the sake of getting it done may not be as good as the experience of doing.

Do these things, not for the Instagram photo but for the joy of doing. Do these things because they’re worth doing. Enjoy yourself. Feel your stress levels decrease. Feel your sense of joy and belonging in this world improve. Understand that the world’s problems are not your burden to carry. Worrying about them won’t change a thing.  It sounds radical by today’s standards but it’s not really. It’s just that modern society has tricked you into thinking that a fake thing on a screen is better than reality and that it’s all more valuable than your personal peace. 

Let’s prove them wrong, shall we?

No Spend Challenge Week One Is Complete

It’s day eight of my No Spend Challenge and things are going swimmingly so far.

In case you need a review of the rules, you’ll find that information here. In a nutshell, I pay bills, buy anything that’s a necessity and try to avoid buying things that aren’t actual needs.

Sometimes I feel guilty doing this because I know plenty of people have zero extra dollars and are struggling to keep their kids clothed and fed. Then I remember that I’m not exactly a wasteful person to begin with and that this is a great reminder that life isn’t about spending.

So where are we today?

I filled up my gas tank and bought some basic groceries on December 30 before the challenge started but that means I started out in good shape. 

The first week was easy for a couple of reasons. 

  1. Basic needs were covered.
  2. I didn’t go anywhere to tempt me.

Work lunches were packed leftovers and the rest of my meals were at home. I stayed off shopping sites that tempt me and deleted marketing emails without reading them. Whatever it is they’re selling, I don’t need it.

In anticipation of this storm we got Sunday and Monday, I did stop at the local grocery for some specific items to help in the event of a power outage: eggs to boil because boiled eggs are good cold, a box of store brand Cheerios because I happened to have milk in the house (also a good cold meal) and a case of water because you can never have too much. It was about $11.

That’s it. 

Have I been tempted? You bet I have. I heard an interview with a linguist this weekend and am dying to read his book. It’s not something my local library would ever have and I’m pretty sure I’ll want to own this one anyway. It’s on my list. Maybe I’ll pick it up someday. I’m actively avoiding those people online who film themselves thrifting and show how they style their treasures. I’m not ready for that sort of temptation! 

I have paint for my bedroom (this is an anxiety inducing story for another day) and will need to buy some new curtains and possibly a couple of other things to bring the room together. I have pinned ideas on Pinterest but am avoiding online shopping. I want to paint and see how the new shade looks before shopping around for options. 

You know, shopping and spending aren’t necessarily a bad thing. I enjoy treating myself and finding just the right treasure to make my home cosy. The part that I have to control is the impulse buy. 

One thing that this challenge reminds me of year after year is that purchases can wait and that it’s best to plan. It reminds me that by thinking something through and finding what I really want rather than what’s in front of me now, life can be both less costly and better.

I have done some decluttering this week. I am working on a puzzle, have done some reading, listened to podcasts, and watched a little tv. I got a new walking pad for Christmas and have enjoyed using that while rewatching some “All Creatures Great and Small” in anticipation of the show’s return to PBS on Sunday. In all, it has been a good, happy time.

So, week one is in the books and I made it through without buying any books! I’m sorry if you had money riding on that possibility!

Yesterday

If you dropped by yesterday, you read something brief about curating your own life.

This is a work in progress for me but I did my best despite being busy for literally the entire day. There was next to no time to just stop and think as I ran from one thing to something else all day.

Here’s what I managed:

I cuddled my house panther.

I saw the chiropractor about my ankle and was assigned some exercises to help it get stronger.

I gave the gift of life by donating blood.

I supported a small business in my own community and ordered pizza for dinner. Plus, I didn’t have to cook!

I stopped to appreciate some late bloomers in the flower beds. Those beds are mostly weeds right now so I really appreciated the pops of color.

I avoided the television and social media as the loudest voices are ones determined to divide the country rather than bring us together.

I worked on my positive attitude while other people focused on their hatred. Can you read the purple graphic above? Here’s what it says:

“Always remain positive.”

* Falls down stairs.

Wow. I got downstairs so fast!

It’s a small start toward curating the life I want. However small it may be, it’s something and maybe I can do more tomorrow.

Big Day On The Homefront

If you live in America, today is a big day. The Presidential election has finally arrived.

If you don’t live in America, you’re probably watching this election with some degree of stress as well given that our choices at the ballot box play a role on the world stage.

Here’s my advice to you: vote and then find something useful to do. Personally, I voted days ago because I always worry that something will prevent me from doing it in person and I wasn’t missing this one. I have a busy workday ahead of me followed by a hair cut after work. I will welcome the distraction and hope that it’s enough to keep my mind free of worry and stress. 

If you can, I suggest you find some way to achieve the same goal. Go for a walk. Better yet, go into nature for a long hike and time with the squirrels. Turn on some good tunes and use that nervous energy to clean your house or organize a closet. 

If you voted, you did your part. Now it’s out of your hands so let it go and try focusing your attention on something that will improve your day or someone else’s. Worrying won’t make it better.

PS – The above photo is from a 1943 era cabin that once housed WAVES (Women Accepted for Voluntary Emergency Service). You can see this cabin and many other interesting things at Carillon Park in Dayton. Approximately 100,000 of these WAVES volunteers helped to win the war and I always find comfort in this cabin. I like this scene with the flag.