Bella Grace

A couple of years ago, I discovered a publication called Bella Grace. It’s a thick, perfect bound magazine on quality paper. There are no ads. The photos are soft and the ideas are sharp.

It’s timeless and well done.

Basically, it’s the opposite of everything else that’s popular these days.

They aren’t selling products and ways to fix yourself. They are shining a light on calm and beauty in this world. They give you stories and writing prompts to make you think. Reader submissions are creative, thought provoking and sometimes so familiar it’s exciting to know there are others out there who think like you. It’s also sometimes mindset changing to read thoughts from people who are different. This is how we learn.

Bella Grace is about making the everyday special and making hard days easier. It’s about making the good stuff magical.

In short, it’s a soothing balm for my nervous system that I didn’t even know I needed.

I’ve only seen it in two stores in Ohio – Barnes and Noble and Joseph Beth Booksellers on Cincinnati so it feels like a special occasion when get to pick one up. It ain’t cheap but it’s not a throw away piece either. I keep my past issues lined up together on a bookshelf and always have one or two lying around the house. They are great rereads because you always spot something new.

They also publish a companion piece called “Bella Grace Field Guide To Everyday Magic.” The new one is more than 130 pages of quotes, worksheets, lists and writing prompts to recall memories, make you think, spark creativity and to help you view your world differently.

One prompt asks in what ways you are like your five year old self. Another is what books you think everyone should read. Others deal with everyday beauty in common things, adventuring in the world and the loveliness of being a homebody.

Perspective is a huge theme because the things some find workaday can be viewed by someone else as having great value.

There’s a two page spread with 31 blocks – a calendar with no dates, if you will. Each block is an inch square. The prompt is to write something about every day. It can’t be too long and can be just snippets like “dark and rainy, read Frankenstein, laughed with a friend.”

This time I’m using mine to write something good that happened every day. Most days are easy. Some are really hard. That’s how life goes.

This week there were good things to report even on the hard days. In fact, it felt like the hard days outnumbered the good. But, as I sit here looking back over the week, it’s hard to focus on the bad when there was so much good. Just this week, I had porch suppers on pretty nights, saw the governor speak at the ribbon cutting of an amazing new community college facility here in my hometown, saw a rainbow, and my dad rescued a kitten from a tree because he’s a really good guy.

That’s not too shabby.

I think half the problem with this world is that people focus too much on the bad and on what scares them. That’s certainly understandable given the social injustices, cruelty, anti- intellectualism, mental health struggles, poverty, closed mindedness, inflation, and narcissism of the general population that exists every day of the week.

Don’t get me wrong. I think about those things too and I worry we are on exactly the wrong path toward the future. Worst of all, I can’t change it. I can only change myself and try to be a role model for decency.

Bella Grace feels like the escape that everyone needs and most people don’t want right now. it’s certainly the escape I need. Less stimulation, prejudice, anger, and all around cruelty and more calm, kindness, and thoughtfulness both inward and toward the perspectives of others are a good start toward a better world.

Be the change you wish to see.

And if you get a chance, pick up an issue of Bella Grace and see what you think! As for me and the 31 days of good things, I’m almost done with my available space. It has been good for my mental health so I think I’ll find another way to keep doing it!

A Reading Life

I am not an especially fast reader but I am a devoted one. There have actually been times in my life that I struggled to read – distracted by other things, too tired, and exhausted after my time as an English major at Ohio University – but I never forgot my drive to read.

It has been a bit of a journey for me but has always been important in my life.

When I was quite small, before I could even read, my mother budgeted for a Little Golden Book every time we went to the grocery store. We would start at the Little Golden Book rack so I could pick out a new one. I would sit in the cart, looking at the pictures while she shopped and she would read it to me when we got home. This was quite smart, a distraction that kept me from requesting things not in the budget and instilling in me excitement over new books.

Scholastic book fairs and the monthly flyer we could order from at school were the only good things about school by my estimation. I was shy and typically panicked when called on in class. To this day, most of my classmates probably remember me as an imbecile but I was an imbecile with a decent home library.

An only child living in the country, books were my friends in the absence of other kids. They kept me company, inspired my imagination, and made me curious about writing.

Actually, they made me curious about everything.

As an English major, I read constantly. It was nothing to consume a novel, a Shakespearean tragedy, and fifteen or twenty short stories in a single week. Unfortunately, required reading and all the necessary writing left no time for fun reading. My brain felt bruised long after graduation.

This is actually how I discovered Harry Potter one Winter break. This was back when OU was still on quarters and break lasted from Thanksgiving until January. I devoured those books because they provided the ultimate escape from reality,

After graduation, I gradually began reading for fun again but found myself in ruts that lasted years where I did little more than sit still and hold the book. It was like a worry stone or maybe just a good old fashioned security blanket.

Many years have passed. I still experience periods when I can’t calm my mind enough to read but have been doing well for the last several years. Covid was great for me because I had plenty of time to read and the only adventures available were through the pages of books.

I use the library some and am a huge supporter of libraries. In Ohio, libraries are free to use and anyone can have a library card. Books and audiobooks for all tastes, periodicals, local history materials, events and even items are available to borrow for FREE.

What a gift! I’m glad to see my tax dollars paying for something society needs.

But I mostly prefer to own my books. I like to be the first person to crack open a book and learn its secrets. They’re like little friends waiting to share something special.

I like their cover art and the way they smell. I like the feel of paper in my hands and the weight of it in my bag. I almost always have a book in my bag or beside me on the couch, at the kitchen table or on the front seat of the car.

And that’s how I’m able to read so much. It’s not that I speed read. It’s that I’m an opportunist who prioritizes reading. Doctors’ offices are great places to read while you wait. In the car before an appointment, while eating lunch at my desk, on the porch after work, as I drift off to sleep in bed – these are great reading opportunities.

Entire days will pass without ever seeing the TV turned on in my house. Sometimes I turn on M.A.S.H. reruns in the evenings because I know it all by heart and it’s great noise in the house. It’s also easy background noise for reading

I used to be really fussy about selecting my next book. I’m a mood reader, after all. But it could take me days to choose my next read. These days, I tend to pick up something I’ve been looking forward to and jump right in. If it doesn’t resonate in the first few pages, it typically goes back to the stack of favor of something else.

I’ll come back to it another day.

I also like to switch up my genres. Since I read historical fiction, literary fiction, thrillers, mysteries, Appalachian fiction, nonfiction, self help and even fantasy, I can change genres to make sure every book is different than the last and feels fresh. It’s a form of palette cleansing.

Thanks to these habits, I guarantee that reading is part of my every day.

My goal this year is to read 100 books. Will I make it? Who knows and who cares? Meeting the goal isn’t the point at all. Neither is speeding through books so I can.

The point is to keep myself immersed in new worlds and with characters who teach me things and tell me stories. The goal simply keeps me reading and that’s all that matters.

I hit the clearance jackpot at Half Price Books last weekend, bringing home a large bag of books I am eager to read for just $3 each. Honestly, I’ve run out of shelf space again but I don’t care. I like to be surrounded by books – someone put imagination and clarity into their ideas so they could be bound up in pretty covers for others to enjoy.

Why wouldn’t I want them around?

I tend to think of my bookshelves like a wine cellar. You bring home a bottle of wine for the perfect occasion. I do the same with my books.

I will read them when the time is right.

There are some I revisit occasionally. Others I may never revisit in their entirety but will flip through them and read excerpts. They’re all here if I need them. Good friends, they are.

I’m at 59 books for the year and it’s only June so I’m a little ahead of schedule. I’m adventuring a lot less this year to pay for my bathroom remodel so there’s more reading time.

I’ve enjoyed most everything I’ve read this year and that’s the whole point. I’ve DNF’d a few – that’s reader talk for “Did Not Finish.” Every book isn’t for everyone so I pass on the ones I know I won’t want to revisit later.

People act like reading and physical books are dead but I beg to differ. There are lots of bookish events, literary festivals, Facebook groups, and bookstores packed with folks happy to browse and talk books.

I saw a literal fight break out in a readers group on Facebook the other day over audio books. The question was whether audio books count as reading. When I say fight, I mean that if we were in the same room, there would have been a switch blade and some hair pulling involved.

Yikes.

Do audiobooks count? Once again, does it really matter? When I consume a book via audiobook, I always clarify that I listened to it. I do think there’s a difference between reading words on a page and listening to someone tell you a story. When my mother read to me and I listened, I wasn’t reading.

But the consumption of books and ideas is the most amazing thing in the world, if you ask me. And if you prefer to listen or need to listen instead of hold the book, I think that’s terrific. Do that.

No need for a fistfight in the girls’ room.

And I hope that if you are a reader you are also a person who shares book recommendations with friends and, especially with non-readers who need a reason to get excited enough about a story to read or listen for themselves.

It’s never too late to get excited about reading!

So I’ll keep pushing through my endlessly growing stacks. At the rate I’m going, I have enough unread books to keep me entertained for the better part of three years.

But don’t worry. I still brake for bookstores and will continue offering a safe space for all those homeless, friendless books on the shelves.

Are you a reader? Tell me about your preferences when it comes to books and reading! This is a judgment free zone (unless you dog ear) and all are welcome. There will be no fistfights over audiobooks on my watch!

Indecision

Last night I stood in the middle of the living room, holding a precarious stack of books and despairing over what to read next.

I was paralyzed with indecision.

Have you ever struggled in this way when faced with too many choices?

I consistently struggle in three main areas:

  1. Books
  2. Getting rid of things that I might need someday
  3. Choosing a travel destination

When it comes to books, there literally are too many interesting books being released every year on top of all the things written in the past to ever feel like there’s enough time.

Issues with letting go of things seem to be genetic and related to my Appalachian roots where holding on to stuff has been an economic decision. My ancestors knew the value of a dollar, of a thing, and of having a stash of stuff for when you need it. Packrattery is a survival mechanism.

And travel decisions are hard because, like books, there are finite resources (time + money) and an infinite amount of places to go. How do we begin to choose?

These areas have felt like an uphill battle for some time now.

When it comes to travel, I typically take longer trips with adventure pals and shorter trips with my fella. Life circumstances for my adventure pals have made it harder for them to go on those longer journeys. And honestly, I’ve just been lazy about getting some shorter trips on the calendar. I used to have adventure ideas in my back pocket every week. I need to get back to those roots but am often torn by the multitude of places to visit and other life things to do.

But I digress.

Back to that stack of books last night,

I am not an especially fast reader but I am a devoted one. I watch little tv and carry a book nearly everywhere including to the dentist’s office yesterday. Most nights I fall asleep with a book in my hands and wake up to the thunk of it falling on me.

How my face isn’t black and blue is beyond me.

When I finish a book, I pick up another, switching genres to keep things interesting and prevent any ruts from forming.

I like the feel of a physical book in my hands and the smell of a book is one of my very favorite things. If you ever see me smelling a book, keep moving. There’s nothing to see here.

I did finally choose something and I have high hopes for it. All the same, I had reservations when walking away from that stack I had pulled. By itself, that stack represents about a month of reading. We are already about a third of the way through the year. When will I get to them and all the others?

Clearly, there needs to be more reading hours in my day along with more time to travel. And perhaps some time for therapy because I do sound like something of a basket case.

This I know.

We are the culmination of our habits. If we want to do more of something we need to prioritize it and build our habits around that thing.

What do you wish to do more of? Does indecision ever interfere? Please tell me not the only one!

Fall Bucket List

Have you started your fall bucket list? What are you waiting for? Here’s the start of mine.

Decorate for fall.

Bake some pumpkiny goodness.

Unplug from my phone.

Catch up on my reading.

Hike!

Take my meals outside when possible.

Rewatch Stranger Things season one

Try some new soup recipes.

Go to bed early. Rest is restorative.

Make homemade trail mix.

Buy flannel sheets to match my new blue bedroom.

Go somewhere I’ve never been.

That’s not a bad start!

Public Schools, Patriotism And Mary Steenburgen

I spent the last two days at the Ohio School Boards Association’s annual conference. As a board member for my local Educational Service Center, I was there to learn and to congratulate two fellow board members who have served for 25 years and another who has served for 20 years.

The opening event defined the entire trip for me. Many people were recognized for their service to Ohio’s schools and it was inspiring to think of how many people have given so many years of their lives and so much of themselves to supporting Ohio’s public schools. But first we opened with a tribute to veterans, the recitation of the Pledge of Allegiance and a performance of the National Anthem.

Let me just say that all of this hit a little differently for me than it normally would. In a world where public education is under attack, where veterans get neither the respect nor the care they deserve, and where people with disabilities are mocked, it was amazing to see all this unfold. 

The Pledge of Allegiance was led by two of the cutest little brothers you’ve ever seen and the National Anthem was performed by a young man with a disability who flawlessly sang one of the most difficult to perform songs in the world. To hear the anthems played for every branch of the American military and to see veterans and military family members stand was chilling. 

What a beautiful start!

We also heard from the actress Mary Steenbergen who was as delightful, smart and down-to-earth as you would hope. While she’s a famous actress, known for her work in Hollywood and for her marriage to actor Ted Danson, she didn’t fit the Hollywood stereotype at all. 

She spoke passionately about her family of teachers beginning with an aunt who, at the age of 16, taught in a one-room schoolhouse in rural Arkansas. She spoke of her mother and sister, both of whom are teachers. She spoke passionately about her love of reading, books and lifelong learning. 

She talked about visiting far off places and becoming different people through reading and what it meant to her to have this form of escape. She was a shy kid as well and I could absolutely relate to her stories of immersion in books when the world gets too hard.

She credits her public education and all the people who looked out for her along the way for helping her throughout her lifetime. It was inspiring to hear her talk about the teachers, colleagues and family who made a difference in her life. 

Public schools are vital to our society. I’m a proud product of a public school and a proud advocate for the future of public schools. An educated nation is a more prosperous, happier and more enlightened nation. I hope you also are a friend to public schools wherever you live.

Cincinnati Tour Of Bookstores

It’s unclear how many bookstores are actually located in the greater Cincinnati area but we did our darndest to hit as many as possible between Tuesday and Friday.

In case you’re wondering, we made it to fourteen bookstores and a Half Price Books warehouse sale in the Cincinnati area as well as another small store in Lebanon on the way home. That’s a new record for us both.

I suggested we also stop at Wheatberry in Chillicothe Friday but Adam said that might be excessive. We had to draw the line somewhere, he said. Since he’s often the grownup in the relationship and since there was no more room for books in the backseat, we agreed to save Wheatberry for someday when we’ve forgotten how many books were acquired this week. 

Every bookstore has its own vibe. A personality, if you will. While chain locations may look basically the same in terms of branding and display techniques, even they are different from location to location. 

Locally owned book shops are my favorite. The Bookery is located on a quiet street near a beautiful old church. It’s family owned, quaint and charming. We both found books we didn’t know existed and didn’t know we had to have. The owner commented on the books we bought and it was clear that she knew her stuff. It’s amazing talking to someone who is truly invested in the product they sell.  Another local store we both favored was Joseph Beth. They have locations in Cincinnati and Lexington, Ky. It’s a large store with the warmth and welcome of a home library. Again, we found things we didn’t know we couldn’t live without. I received excellent customer service from a young woman who both helped me find what I needed and seemed pleased to chat about reading and books for a few minutes after we found my book. 

There were other local shops as well as a few Half Price Books and Barnes and Noble locations in the mix. Every Barnes and Noble feels drastically different in how they choose to organize their books and some are quite odd. Yet, they always have this lovely and relaxing smell that makes you want to slow down. Half Price pays literal pennies for the books they buy back and then sell for much higher prices and this irritates me to no end. 

Yet, I will always value brick and mortar bookstores over buying from online superstores. I read both fiction and nonfiction. Adam is more of a nonfiction reader but a lot of local bookshops either have no nonfiction or a limited selection. So the larger stores are often more pleasant for us both and places like The Bookery seem even more special. 

The Half Price Books Warehouse sale was just Friday and Saturday. We were stopping in on our way out of town and ended up arriving about twenty minutes early. Just before we arrived Adam joked that there may be a line to get in. We laughed until the store came into view and found at least twenty people lined up outside the door. So we joined the line, claiming our titles of bookstore groupies, and waited our turn to join the madness. 

We both came home with a rather large collection of literary treasures so we are stocked up for a while. Not that this will stop us from braking the next time we see a bookstore!