Three De’s of De-Cember

I have been building my priorities around monthly themes for the last few months. You can read all about it here. Last month’s theme related to saying NO to things that don’t matter for No-vember.

I’m taking a similar nod from De-cember by building my task list around decluttering, destressing and detoxing. I’m off to a late start because of circumstances beyond my control but that’s ok. I’m not reaching for perfection but am simply looking for improvement and some sense of accomplishment.

These tasks will also be carried into January as part of my annual No Spend Challenge. I find it’s easier to not spend money when you see how much extra stuff you own, when you’re not feeling stressed, and when you’re actively detoxing from things like screen time and junk food.

I badly need to work on all of these things. I have been too stressed lately and am aware that my priorities need realigning. I also need to calibrate how I deal with people and situations where others are making demands of my time and energy.

Theme months may sound silly but they are actually quite helpful in accomplishing a few goals every month and staying focused on what actually matters.

Have you ever tried a theme month for your to do list? I would love to hear how it works for you!

Word Of The Year: Rejuvinate

If you were to choose a word to represent your values and intentions for the next twelve months, what would it be? 


It’s a growing movement, this idea that a word can be used to guide decisions and inform the way we live our lives. For scrapbookers, life coaches and others who mean to document life or live with greater intention, it’s a tool and something to explore for personal growth and wellness.

I have been thinking about this in the context of my goals, weaknesses and demands for myself  in 2024. It seems that a Word of the Year would be a fun way to keep me on track. 

Most people don’t think about their habits nearly as much as I do but I have this weird Puritanical worldview when it comes to work ethic and self improvement that causes me to think about this stuff frequently. 

After all, humans are the sum of their own habits. If your habit is to cook a nutritious meal after an hour at the gym, you’re likely to be a healthier person than most of us. If you are an impulse spender who shops for entertainment, you’re likely to have some money troubles. 

I used to have good habits. I used to eat a strict diet that made me feel healthy and strong. I used to drink three glasses of water every morning as soon as I got out of bed. Until the time change this fall, I was hiking a couple of times a week. Commitment to habits can ebb and flow with seasons and health. I know what habits make my life better but sticking to them can be a challenge. 

I suspect this is true for most people. 

January marks a new season in my life every year. This is when I start a big project at work and when I do my No Spend Challenge. If you’re not familiar, I have written about it here before and will talk about it again in the next few days. It’s colder and I am perfectly happy to go out in the cold for a nice hike and then come home to get cozy rather than run around a lot as I typically do in warm weather. 

In other words, late December is when I reach out and hit that big ole’ Reset Button and start again for a new year. Life becomes slow and it’s pretty good too. 

Keeping in mind that I have some habits collecting dust like those old home movies in your attic, I’m not really starting over. I’m just dusting them off and carting them into the living room where I can see them. 

So my word of the year is REJUVINATE.

I like this word because it can be applied to most anything. 

I can rejuvenate my good eating habits, my commitment to financial fitness, my devotion to hobbies and even my reading routines. I can rejuvinate my interest in work and in journaling or keeping my home tidy. Some of these habits even work together making rejuvenating habits a big picture, full circle activity. 

When faced with a decision, I will use this word as a kind of yardstick. Does this decision aid my desire to rejuvenate something important to me? 

Clearly, we don’t have the luxury of only doing the things we wish to do. Sometimes we have to do work we don’t like or attend a meeting set around someone else’s schedule. As grown ups, the expectation is that we will do what the rest of the world wants us to do. Let me tell you, the rest of the world will fill up every bit of your time if you let it and that’s not necessarily in your best interest.

REJUVINATE. If you play Scrabble, you’ll know it’s worth twenty points. If you know your Latin, you know that “re” means again and that “juvenis” means young. The word literally means “to make young again.” The online Oxford English Dictionary is pretty helpful in understanding word origins. 

I don’t wish to reinvent the wheel. I mainly want to return to some good habits, to rejuvenate my commitment to things that serve me instead of living a life where my role is to serve everyone else and to just allow things to happen to me rather than fully live my life. 

The more I think about it, the more certain I am rejuvenating habits is a good use of my time right now.

Now that you’ve had time to think about it, tell me in the comments a word you think would make a great Word of the Year for you!

46 Trips Around The Sun

Today is August 14 and that means it’s my birthday. I’m 46 and I know this for sure because I took the time to do the math. Yes, I’m at that age when I don’t even know how old I am.

Unlike little kids who always whip out the half (like nine and a half ) and the old folks who tell you what they almost are (almost 96), I don’t bother knowing my age at all.

Normally, I like to write something introspective for my birthday. What did I learn this year? What mattered to me?

This time though, I am struggling to care about any of that. Am I in a slump? Maybe. Will I come back to life with my upcoming travels? Maybe. I suspect I’m just worn down from fighting my own fledgling health and from changes that have made a big part of my life more stressful.

So, instead of looking backward, today I will look to the future and what I hope to work on in the coming year. Think of it as a sort of to do list.

1. Health – My health has got to be a priority. I know what needs to be done in terms of diet, fresh air, exercise and mental health. I just. Need. To. Do. It.

2. Adventure – Weekend adventures have been rare this summer. It’s time to dust off the maps and spend more time adventuring. It’s good for the mind and the soul.

3. One Small Thing – Continue using this method to accomplish stuff around the house. These last two weeks have been too distracting to care about that list but I’m ready to get back at it. Click here to learn about that.

4. Read – Reading is important to me but my attention span has been waning this year. Time to hit the books again!

5. Work – My work life once was intentional and somewhat well juggled but I have lost control. While I don’t know that I can mend the situation, I should at least try to find better ways to manage the new normal.

6. Just Say No – I forget this sometimes but No is a complete sentence. I need to stop allowing myself to be guilted into stuff I shouldn’t do and I need to say no to things that interfere with my priorities.

7. Just Say Yes – While saying no to things that don’t matter, it’s equally important to say Yes to the things that do matter. Yes is also a complete sentence.

So there you go. These are the priorities for this next trip around the sun! I once read that the first step to getting somewhere is to decide not to stay where you are. This resonated with me and maybe it will with you too.

In case you are wondering, the above picture is from Rock House in the Hocking Hills State Park. It’s a break in the cave that allows you to see light from the darkness.

A Blessing For The New Year

The Irish have a way with words and many of those words are tv appropriate as we greet the new year. This one is perhaps my favorite.

“May the saddest day of your future be no worse than the happiest day of your past.”

This is my wish for you and yours. But here’s another wish. “May you get all your wishes but one so that you always have something to strive for.”

This is another key to happiness- to always have something to improve and work toward. It’s important and healthy to have room for improvement. Maybe that’s why we embrace resolutions – by striving to improve, we are striving toward happiness.

Happy New Year, my friends! Let’s show ‘em what we’re made of in 2023!

Relax

Turn off the news. Put down your work. Step away from all the worry.

Go outside. Breathe fresh air. Walk through the woods. Feel dirt beneath your feet. Find something beautiful to enjoy.

Relax. The burdens of the world are not yours to carry. It’s Saturday. Give yourself a break and try to be happy.

Repeat As Needed

As we look toward the transition from winter into spring, it seems an appropriate time to stop and reassess our own circumstances, lifestyle and choices. The hint of seasonal change always makes me more philosophical.

No matter your place in life, it’s important to pause occasionally to make sure you’re on the right path and to change course if needed.

Where is the path taking you? Are you facing mountains that need climbing? Have you wandered off in the weeds? Maybe you’re lost but maybe you’re exactly where you need to be – even if it feels like you can’t see the forest for the trees.

Ask the tough questions and take action when needed.

Reset. Readjust. Restart. Refocus.

Repeat as needed.